Assuming a victim’s mindset when things don’t go your way when applying for a promotion is probably one of the worst things you can do to help yourself professionally. Not only will the negativity provide confirmation to the hiring team that they made the right call by selecting someone else, but it also creates an atmosphere where you risk alienating co-workers. Focusing on skills that are within YOUR control is a habit ad skill in itself that will help you better understand how to improve your “luck” rather than leave things at chance. This way, you are more likely than not to at least get the results you want, more often than not.
I wrote this newsletter with the best of intentions: to help individuals snap out of their “Why am I always passed on for this promotions/job?” funk and tell you the thing others may not have the courage to tell you. The great news though, is that mindset and habits are like muscles – they can be worked out and improved on, leading to version 2.0 of yourself. In fact, it’s preferable that you hone the skills listed below BEFORE stepping into a leadership position so that you can hit the road running once in the role. If you are ready to, examine your behaviors and habits from each perspective listed below to see if you perhaps sometimes fall into these traps:
Lack of Initiative and Proactiveness
Most individuals prefer to wait for opportunities to come to them rather than actively seek them out. In a competitive job market, waiting for leadership roles to fall into your lap is a recipe for stagnation. And while yes, it would be nice for HR or your boss to bring opportunities to you or celebrate your wins to the powers that be so that you are at top of mind when the next promotion opportunity arises, it rarely happens. Taking proactive steps such as volunteering for projects, expressing interest in leadership roles, and seeking mentorship or coaching are good stepping stones. With each of these opportunities you seize, you will increase your visibility, expand your skill set, and create a reputation for being a proactive and engaged team member.
Limited Networking and Relationship Building
Keeping a low professional profile and neglecting to build meaningful connections is another aspect of working on your professional growth. Networking is crucial for leadership positions, as it enhances visibility, provides mentorship opportunities, and fosters a supportive professional community. It also shows that you can collaborate and create work-bridges that go beyond your own personal work. I recommend at least trying to attend industry events, join professional groups, and actively cultivate relationships within and outside your organization. Try to go into these conversations with a curious mind and seek to understand others’ pain points and how you might be able to help or bring value. Keep in mind that these people you will meet don’t owe you anything – so make sure you leave a positive impression of your interactions, rather than have them feeling like you are only about asking for favors. Something as simple as connecting people who could mutually help each other is valuable, and then nurturing that connection with follow-ups. Access to new opportunities, a stronger support system, and a reputation as a collaborative and connected professional will help others perceive you as more than a “do-er”.
Resistance to Change and Adaptability
If as an employee, you prefer to stick to the familiar and resist change or new responsibilities, then forget about being assigned a leadership role. Leadership positions demand high adaptability and a willingness to not only embrace the change, but they also need to then sell it to their team so that they can get everyone rowing in the same direction. In addition, the tendency to resistant change hinders personal growth and limits potential for advancement. If seeking out new challenges seems daunting, embrace change as an opportunity for growth, and continuously develop your skills. Rather than focus on all the negative aspects of the changes, try to see how you will benefit from them. Will they bring about a new opportunity to highlight your skills? Provide an opportunity to create new working collaborations, experiences and connections? Try to think of ways to demonstrate your enhanced adaptability and broader skill set, by doing things that will provide evidence to others that you are, in fact, someone who thrives in dynamic environments.
Ineffective Communication
Effective communication is a cornerstone of leadership. Poor communication (not communicating clearly or frequently enough, confidently, and persuasively) can hinder collaboration, lead to misunderstandings, and impede your ability to influence others. If you’re noticing that your communication skills could use some refining, work on honing them. If you don’t know where to start, try seeking feedback from trusted sources. Simply showing an openness to feedback will show initiative few others are willing to model. If you’re still not convinced, just know that improving your overall communication skills will only improve team collaboration, increase your influence, and elevate your reputation. There are no drawbacks to improving communication skills, so why not try?
Reluctance to Take Ownership
Shying away from taking ownership of projects or avoiding responsibility for outcomes doesn’t bode well for any employee. If you can’t handle the consequences of your own output, how can the organization rely on you to take responsibility for the output of several of your team members? Leaders are expected to take ownership of both successes and failures – and avoiding responsibility signals a lack of leadership readiness. If the idea of flying under the radar is something you prefer, yet being a leader is still something you aspire to, then I would suggest starting small. Volunteer for leadership roles on tasks, then moving onto ownership of projects. Normalize leadership development and learn from both successes and setbacks by having conversations with leadership members you admire, within or outside of your organization. With time and practice, you will increase your confidence, enhance your overall leadership skills, and grow your reputation for being a reliable leader that values accountability.
While not all things are within your control, such as the decision to promote you or not, many other factors are within your control. However, breaking free from the habits and behaviors that are hindering your journey to a leadership position will require intentional effort and a commitment to personal growth. By taking initiative, building meaningful relationships, embracing change, improving communication, and demonstrating ownership, you can pave the way for your ascent. As you make these changes, expect to see increased opportunities, a stronger professional network, and a trajectory toward your first leadership role. Remember, the path to leadership is not a sprint but a strategic and purposeful marathon.