As leaders step into their first leadership roles, it's essential that they recognize the subtle but powerful shifts required to excel in this new terrain. I see this all the time: many of my clients have excelled academically and thus far in their careers by highlighting unparalleled dedication and drive. Yet, the transition to leadership has them sometimes feeling like they’ve hit a roadblock.
As a result, they do more of what they know: they work harder, longer hours, trying to replicate the formula that brought them success before. Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world’s leading Executive Coaches, even wrote an excellent book on the topic: “What got you here won’t get you there”.
To truly flourish as a leader, a shift in focus from "me" to "we" is essential.
If you are an aspiring leader or have newly been appointed direct reports but feel like some invisible barrier is keeping you from achieving the positive results you’re so used to, this might be your so-called “blind spot”.
Here are some red flags to watch for, along with some strategies to recalibrate your approach if any of these flags resonate with you:
Red Flag #1: You value solo achievement over your team’s (or team member’s) success.
If this resonates, don’t worry – you're not alone. Nearly 60% of newly promoted managers underperform in their roles due to their inability to transition from individual contributor to team leader. This means that rather than orchestrate their teams and create an environment for others to succeed, they have their heads down doing the work themselves – the way they did before becoming a leader.
What could you do instead? Celebrate team wins vocally and visibly. Acknowledge the contributions of others in meetings and reports. Remember, a leader's success is measured by the accomplishments of their team. And if you have visions of scaling the leadership ranks, this is one of those skills you will have to get good at.
Red Flag #2: Ignoring the impact of emotions on team dynamics and productivity.
While many may scoff at the impact of so-called “soft skills”, get this: Research from the Harvard Business Review shows that 80-90% of the competencies that differentiate top performers are related to emotional intelligence (i.e - soft skills).
What should you do? It would be helpful to first understand that your team’s morale directly affects their performance. Invest time in developing emotional intelligence by practicing active listening, seeking feedback and getting to know your team and what they need to feel supported to do their best work.
Red Flag #3: Micromanaging rather than empowering.
Most employees don’t love to be micromanaged. What does that mean? It means controlling every little aspect of their work. For example, it could look like telling them exactly how to do a task rather than focusing on the result and letting them do the work in a way that appeals to them. It could look like making them show you every task they complete for your seal of approval rather than trusting them to do the work well. It could look like making them ask for your seal of approval for every decision they make.
Advice: Delegate responsibilities and empower your team members. Provide guidance and support but trust them to execute tasks. This fosters a sense of ownership and encourages creativity. If this makes you nervous, set regular 1-to-1's and discuss what the product needs to look like. You can do the same for each milestone. This will still keep you in the loop, but without micromanaging.
Red Flag #4: Ignoring, brushing off or avoiding feedback and growth opportunities.
This is my favorite, and one of the reasons why I do the work I do: a survey by Zenger Folkman found that leaders who ranked at the bottom 10% in asking for feedback were rated at the 15th percentile in overall leadership effectiveness. Let me put this simply: As a leader, if you don’t ask for feedback, you are likely to be ranked incredibly low on effectiveness. And yet, so many leaders avoid it!
How can you reframe your thoughts around accepting feedback? Listen, you’re already a hard worker – no one is questioning that. But if there is one thing that can have massive impacts on your success as a leader, it’s the gift of growth feedback from your stakeholders can provide. If your boss won’t provide it, seek it out somewhere else. Think mentors, peers or reaching out to a leadership coach. For example, as a coach, I do the digging so that my clients can focus on their work and habits. Then once you receive the feedback, actively take part in leadership development or coaching programs to hone your skills. If you ask enough people for feedback, a trend will emerge. Use that as your area of focus.
If these pointers aren’t enough to sway you or you’re still not sold on why organizations put so much value on these factors, then maybe offering you the business perspective exactly how these come into play when it comes to running a business (or from your organization’s perspective):
Enhanced Team Performance
When a leader focuses on the collective success of the team rather than individual accomplishments, it fosters a culture of constructive collaboration. Team members feel valued, supported, and motivated to work towards common goals. As a result, the overall performance of the team improves significantly. This then translates to better and more business.
Improved Employee Morale and Retention
A "we" mindset proves to team members that their contributions are integral to the team's success. This recognition boosts morale, leading to higher job satisfaction and increased loyalty. Employees are more likely to stay with an organization where they feel valued and part of a cohesive team. This means lower employee turnover rates. As I mentioned in my earlier newsletter (Reframing Leadership Coaching and Professional Development As A Strategic Investment For Long-term Success), companies care about employee retention because it is expensive – not to mention, disruptive.
Increased Innovation and Creativity
Collaboration and teamwork are catalysts for innovation. When team members are encouraged to share ideas, challenge perspectives, and work together towards solutions, the result is an environment that nurtures creativity. A "we" mindset promotes a diverse range of viewpoints, leading to more innovative problem-solving approaches. In a competitive landscape, innovation helps win the race.
Stronger Relationships and Trust
A leader who prioritizes the team's well-being and success earns the trust and respect of team members. This trust creates a supportive environment where open communication, constructive feedback, and healthy conflict resolution thrive. These are conditions where great work is produced.
Sustainable Success and Legacy
Lastly, leaders who prioritize the success and growth of their teams set the stage for sustainable success. By nurturing a culture of collaboration and empowerment, they leave a legacy of strong teams that can carry the organization forward by attracting even more exceptional talent for continued success.
By embracing the "we" mindset, emerging leaders not only elevate their teams but also set the stage for their own long-term success and the prosperity of the organizations they lead. It's a shift that redefines what true leadership is all about—inspiring, empowering, and bringing out the best in others.
So, to all aspiring leaders out there, remember that the journey from "me" to "we" is not just about changing your mindset; it's about unlocking a world of possibilities and paving the way for extraordinary achievements, both individually and collectively.
If you'd like to dive deeper into these concepts or explore strategies for fostering a "we" culture within your team, I'm here to help!
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